Jul 28, 2013
Girl Talk // The Dreams You Don't Talk About
If you've ever had a dream in your life, you know...dreaming can be a scary thing.
Dreams give you a glimpse of what your life could be and ask you to follow them without more than a bold hope and the promise of what could be.
One of the dreams I've had all my life has been to have a marriage like my parents' (they've been married almost 28 years and are the best of friends) and to be able to parent children who grow up knowing that they're loved not only by their family, but even more so by Christ.
But it wasn't until I was in college, and about halfway through, that I felt comfortable talking about that dream with others.
You see, there's a vulnerability to realizing our dreams aloud. For me, it was the worry of what others might think, that by wanting first and foremost to be a wife and mother, would mean relinquishing my intellect and potential to have a promising career in whatever field I chose. That I was somehow shedding what so many women have fought so long and hard for in exchange for an apron and minivan.
It's that vulnerability that causes us to hole up our dreams, keeping them hidden for fear of what others might think or say. No one wants their dreams crushed into a million tiny pieces, and so it's so much easier to hide them away than to risk the voices of insecurity and reality stomp all over them.
AJ and I do a lot of talking about our future. If I'm being completely transparent with you, I don't know what my dreams are right now. Sure, that dream for a family is still very present, but beyond that? I don't know. I have a degree in education, and I'd love to teach in an elementary classroom. But I also have a passion for global nonprofit work, a creative energy for photography and design, a love of interior decorating, and a penchant for hosting and planning events.
So if you figure out how to wrap all of that up into one career, let me know.
AJ, on the other hand, has a very specific dream. He wants to one day work in a studio as a producer or recording engineer. And in about a month, he's heading to Boston to continue his education at Berklee College of Music as a step toward achieving that dream.
Both of those situations are scary. Mine, because I just don't know what the next step is. His, because it requires risk and that bold hope.
At the bottom of it all, though, God desires the best for us. He gives us dreams and puts people in our path who can encourage us and help us achieve them. And if you're seeking Jesus in everything you do, then the dreams that are of Him will align with His plan for your life.
No matter how scary your dream is, I guess the question you have to ask yourself is this: is it worth the risk? Because there's risk in every part of dreaming: from the time that you realize that you even have a dream to the day that you tell others about it to the moment you begin to work toward making it happen.
If the answer to that question is "yes", then start. Start talking to others (because there's accountability in that!), start figuring out what you need to do to make it happen, start praying hard.
Too often we rob ourselves of the joy of dreaming because of the fear of failure and judgment. Don't you think it's time to start chasing your dreams?