Feb 13, 2015
5 Tips for Having the Best Valentine's Day Ever
before i started dating aj, i didn't love valentines day. it wasn't anything special to me and, well, i didn't have anyone to share it with. but now, on the other side of things, being in a relationship, i've realized that valentine's day can be such a disappointment if you let it be. it's so easy to build up our expectations of what we think should happen on this magical holiday of love. maybe you're fantasizing that the guy you like will finally sweep you off your feet and declare his love. maybe you are dreaming that your boyfriend will propose, or that your husband will surprise you with a romantic weekend getaway. but if i've learned anything from three valentines days in a serious relationship, it's that the big, grandiose plans seldom turn out the way you dream.
for example, our first valentines day together was also the day we decided to start dating, and was filled with awkward "what do we do?" kind of conversations and worries. it was special in it's own way, but we were both figuring out how to navigate that holiday. our second was spent with both of us fighting the flu. enough said. and last year started off with the best intentions...secret reservations made to a great restaurant...which ended up having a weird and expensive fixed menu.
so no matter if you're single or dating or engaged or married, i think it's incredibly easy to set valentine's day up in your mind to be this great day, and can easily be disappointed. so, here's 5 tips to consider (single or in a relationship!) this valentine's day.
1. be surprised // the reality is that valentine's day is a commercialized holiday that sets our expectations high. but the reality is that valentine's day really is just a day where we get an excuse to eat a little more chocolate. don't set yourself up for disappointment by expecting your life to be a movie. go buy yourself some chocolate, expect nothing, and be surprised!
2. pretend you're in elementary school // think about what made valentine's day so great in school: you got to give and get those fun little valentines to all of your friends! i'll let you in on a little secret: those little cards still make valentine's day fun in adulthood. grab a box and give them out to your besties at work or school...i guarantee they'll bring back fun memories and put a smile on people's faces!
3. take the initiative // ladies, i know...we want to have our guys plan a whole big exciting date for us. but if i've learned anything from dating an introvert, it's that sometimes guys really do enjoy having us take the lead. plan a fun day or dinner for you and your guy, and surprise him! chances are he'll love having the pressure taken off and will enjoy the thought that you put into it. and if you're like me, and love surprising people, it might even be better than if he was surprising you!
4. celebrate all love // yes, valentine's day is centered around romantic love, but why not take some time to celebrate all love? tell your parents that you love them and that you're grateful for them. text a friend and celebrate the unique love that you have with your besties. none of us would be who or where we are without the love that we've received from those closest to us, so use this holiday as a day to celebrate it all! no one ever minds getting candy or flowers, so surprise someone special in your life (who isn't your significant other) this holiday....i promise they won't see it coming!
5. have fun // i think we put so much pressure on valentine's day to be this super romantic day straight from an episode of the bachelor. but when you strip those expectations away, it really can be a fun holiday. so remember to have fun on valentine's day this year...send a card to a friend or your grandma (grandma's love that stuff), or go on a romantic date with your man, or have a fun valentine's (or galentine's) party and play some minute to win it games and dance around to 90's boy band music (because let's be real...nothing gets you moving with your girls like blasting some n'sync)!
what are your thoughts on valentine's day? do you have any tips for making it great, whether you're in a relationship or not?